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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, having one loving, mostly well adjusted child out of two is pretty great.  I know it hurts that your daughter feels victimized by her prey damn idyllic childhood.  It sounds like the only mistake you made was teaching her any sense of her enormous, outsized luck and privilege.  But she might have had narcissistic, blaming qualities anyway.  We can influence the people our children become but we can’t control them.

I would encourage you to get therapy to let go of feeling responsible for who your child is now, to accept what joys there were in raising her, and to see your future differently with a very limited role for her in your life.  You can keep the door open but choose to find joy in what you DO have: a great son, a loving husband, health, financial privilege, stability.  What’s the worst that could happen in this trajectory…maybe she writes a “tell all” book with crazy accusations?  That would suck, but you’d still have your loving son, a great husband, the ability to travel, health, and hopefully some friends.

Please try to love what you have and let her go where she will go. [/quote]

Sorry, I meant to say *not* helping her gain any understanding of her outsized privilege and luck with the childhood she had.[/quote]

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