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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I am a better mom mothering two kids than I would be just one. I would likely be too all over just one. [/quote]

I wanted to add to this - my second taught me patience and how to be more calm and understanding I am a better mother to my first because of it[/quote]

But you can’t prove the negative. I bet you, like most parents of one, would have learned patience and balance with more time and experience. If you had a second when your first was a toddler or preschooler, you just don’t know how you would have grown as a more experienced parent. But if you learned those skills with two, I’m confident you would have learned them with one as well.[/quote]

DP - but you learn to parent differently - you’re forced to, really - when you have more than one kid.  Plenty of parents don’t learn certain parenting skills until the situation requires it and with one kid, there are fewer variables.  That’s not a criticism of having one child, it’s just one important way that parenting one vs. more than one differs.  Sure, maybe this PP would have eventually learned patience if she’d stuck with one, but probably not the same way as she did with two.

Also, plenty of parents express similar sentiments, that having more than kid required them to divide their attention and, thus, chill out a bit when they weren’t attending to one kid all the time, and nothing horrible happened.  Again, not a criticism of having one child.[/quote]

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