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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Confirmation bias. People always believe the choice they made was the right one.[/b]

OP isn't going to get any valuable info here. People are just saying the choice they made was correct, whatever it was. [/quote]

This is almost right.  What I think is more accurate is that these 40+ mothers are being defensive because they know in their heart of hearts that theirs was a selfish decision.  Having babies after 40 is ridiculous.[/quote]

Agreed.  
"I am so glad I have older parents" said no one ever.[/quote]

Uhhh me?  My dad was 45 when I was born. He’s 90 now and in good health. I’m grateful for every year I get with him.  I loved having an older parent. He was far into his career and had done really well, so I had a lot of opportunities growing up and graduated college/law school debt free. He had also had a lot of life experience; he was and still is the person I go to for advice. He was a great role model.

It never crossed my mind that he was older than my friends parents. We ran half marathons together when he was in his sixties. He is a loving grandfather though he doesn’t do any childcare. But then again he wouldn’t have done it when he was younger either - he didn’t retire until his mid 70s. He has funded 529s for my kids as well at UTMA accounts.  Very glad he had me in his 40s and not when he was a poor army kid at 22. [/quote]

I think it’s really sad that almost all of the positives that you have identified about your old father is how much of a money machine he was because of his age.

I have a good friend whose parents had her in their 40s.  Not only has she always been keenly aware of their ages, she’s been worried about losing them since she was a friggin teenager.  [/quote]

Well, hold on - that's not what I said.  I was responding to the PP who said, "no one is ever glad to have older parents."  And I'm here saying, yeah, actually I am glad because at 22, he was in the army.  At 30, he was fresh out of business school and working crazy hours to start his career.  At 45, he was everything that a good younger parent would be (attentive, loving, emotionally supportive, physically active) PLUS he had life experience to impart, was in a solid place in his profession and more mature.  The money is an added benefit for sure - why would that be sad?  I'm not saying he was a good dad because of the money... he was a good dad regardless.

What did I miss out on by having an old dad?  It wasn't like he was in an old folks home when I was in high school.  He was coaching my softball team and traveling to all my meets.

I guess I was always aware he could die, but it wasn't something I ever remember worrying about.  Probably because he was healthy and active.  [/quote]

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