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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  I only said the kids were not in HS.  They are in ES and younger.  We're definitely NOT ok with a stranger babysitting.  [/quote]

Why can't you stay with the children during the reception and your husband attend the reception?  You really seem set on making this hard.  The wedding is of a close family member.  Try to act like you're a family even though you clearly don't like this one.[/quote]
NP, but there is no reason to pay all the travel expenses just to have 3/4 members of OPs nuclear family sit in a hotel room for the family event. I have no problem with kid-free weddings, but people that have them also can’t expect that all family members with kids will attend. When my family has kid free events like weddings, I usually try to make it but DH and the kids stay home. You can’t on one hand trumpet family over all else, but then not include kids in family events. My nuclear family is paramount, and that family includes my kids. Sorry not sorry. [/quote]

Your "nuclear family is paramount"?  Yikes.  Come back in 20 years and let us know how that's working out for you.  You are modeling behavior to your kids that you're not going to like when they do the same thing to you.  It is very sad that you are so misguided and short-sighted.[/quote]
It’s misguided to place the importance of my nuclear family over extended family I see once a year at best? Not prioritizing family events that don’t include my entire family and would require my DH and kids to just sit in a hotel room for a family event is modeling behavior I won’t like in the future? This is part of growing up and creating a family of your own, I would certainly hope that when my kids are adults that the needs of their spouse and kids will come before the needs of extended family they don’t see very often. But whatever floats your boat.[/quote]

In our family we show up and do things we don't want to do because we support our family, nuclear or extended, and we want our children that family does for family.  Sounds like you're hellbent on showing your kids that you don't.  Different strokes.

I agree with the person you're responding to.  It would be interesting to hear back from you in 20/30 years.  I think you would have a different response once the shoe is on the other foot ...   :lol: [/quote]

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