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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom was a teacher and my MIL didn’t work. They are baffled and amazed that I book all of our camps, vacation days, and weekends away from May - October by the end of February. 
If they want to do a vacation with us or have the kids for a week in the summer, they need to submit their preferred dates by Jan 1 or they have to work with our schedule. Neither of them ever booked camps - especially ones that are full within an hour of registration opening .[/quote]

So, to this person and to the OP, please just keep in mind that yes the costs of housing and child care have increased disproportionately, but it’s also true that you have made particular choices. There are SAHMs today who live in this area on incomes lower than yours, I guarantee it. And there were working moms in the ‘80s too. It’s not as simple as saying “times have changed.” You do in fact have a different set of priorities than your MIL, and that’s okay, but don’t blame the modern world.[/quote]

Neither OP or I are blaming the modern world. We’re asking our MILs and our own mothers (who raised us to be independent, educated, employed women) to stop gasping, clutching pearls, and expressing faux concern when we have the audacity to work outside the home, spend money because we have more money than time, and generally do all the things it takes to run a household in the modern world.

I know exactly what OP is talking about. I understand that MIL is unfamiliar with the cost of daycare / college savings or the need to schedule camps on school breaks and I don’t mind explaining it once. However every single summer or school break is met with a big sigh and annoyance that we don’t have the freedom or the financial ability to “spend the summer at the shore” like she did every summer when her kids were little. There is no reason this summer is different than the past 8 year but every year it’s a shock to her. [/quote]

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