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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This was uncalled for.  I am not just "complaining on the internet." I came asking if anyone had any suggestions for why sex could still be so painful and someone brought up a condition that I'd never heard of. I believe investigating this is an excellent starting point for me.  And yes, my husband knows all this. He was the one who looked at me shortly after I delivered and told me that my stitches were coming loose; he's seen how they healed improperly.  We looked up info on vulvodynia together and he is just as excited/hopeful that I at least may start to understand a very painful and frustrating problem.  If you could get past the emotional and physical issue of unbearably painful sex, than more power to you. I can not, and fortunately my husband is sympathetic and understanding.[/quote]

I apologize, that was rude. Yeah, I think that you are different to a lot of these other WS because you acknowledge there is a problem, instead of pretending everything is fine and it's the fault of the high libido spouse. Hope everything works out alright.

One thing I'll say in relation to your other thread is that, you indicated that you've never heard of vulvodynia etc, and doctors are brushing you off - you really need to get more educated yourself about your body. Doctors shouldn't just be believed outright. Get second opinions, do online research, buy OBOS, etc, go to specialists. Often people go to a general practitioner who knows very little and get brushed off. Don't just put up with it or be made to believe you should put up with it. [/quote]

I appreciate your apology.  You're right, drs shouldn't be believed wholesale.  About a week after delivery, I went to the dr. b/c I'd had some major discomfort and when my husband looked, he said it looked like some vaginal stitches were loose.  The dr. said nope, things looked like they were healing fine and said the same at my 6 week check. About 6 months I went back due to the excrutiating pain and was told it was probably due to breastfeeding hormones.  The 2nd time I went, I was told it was probably internal hemorrhoids and given suppositories.  I stopped them after awhile b/c it was clear (at least to me) that it wasn't hemorrhoids. The 3rd time yet a different dr. looked much more carefully and said it appeared the stitches had indeed come loose and that it had healed, but in an improper fashion.  He gave me estrogen cream get that area supple.  I will do more research and see a specialist b/c it's clear that what I'm doing now isn't working at all.  And I've noticed since giving birth, I tend to get yeast infections about 50% of the time after I get my period.  My husband and I had sex Sat night and here it is Wed and I'm still sore- sitting down really hurts and I'm itchy down there.  So as you can see, things are all over the map for me and yeah, it looks like I have a lot of research ahead of me.[/quote]

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