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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve known a couple of these guys through work.  In my experience, they try to look for much younger women to hook up with.  A surprising number fall for catfishing scams, two were fired for sexual harassment in the workplace, and a couple remarried a much younger woman and started a second, younger family.  [/quote]

Uhhhh... any guy who can hook up with or marry a much younger woman is NOT a dud.[/quote]

Oh yeah?  So, by your definition, any guy in his forties that your college age daughter decides to date is, by definition, a great guy?  She’s got your approval?[/quote]

Whatever you may think about it morally, the fact is that a guy in his forties who can attract a college girl is NOT a dud. In fact he has to be exceptionally attractive in some way in order to get her interest at all.[/quote]

You can be conventionally attractive and still be a dud husband and father.  I mean, if you are so bad that your co-workers can see it, you are pretty bad.

You can (and many men do) actually go on to be a decent husband and father to your second wife and still have completely failed and continue to fail in your relationship ms with your wife and children from your first marriage.  
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A guy whose first marriage failed but whose second marriage succeeded is clearly not a dud.

If your marriage failed but your XH goes on to have a successful second marriage, you should seriously consider the possibility that he wasn't a dud, and the problem in the marriage was actually [i]you[/i].[/quote]

I don’t actually know either of these wives, only the men.  
People CAN change, particularly as they get older.  
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