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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just to give you some perspective, ex and I moved to be near his family. Many years later we separated. I get along very well with his whole family (they’ve known me for 30 years) and I don’t live anywhere near my own family, so they still invite me to gatherings. They have never attempted to reunite us. I’m about to have a medical procedure performed that will require me to have some else drive me home. I’ll be asking my ex since I don’t have relatives nearby. We see each other all the time because we have middle school aged children. We spent Father’s Day with ex’s live in girlfriend. We tell our kids that we’ll always be a family, we’re just configured a bit differently now. Ex and I have zero interest in being a couple again, but we still spend holidays together for the kids’ sakes. I’m sure things will change as the kids get older, but for now, this works for us.[/quote]

Op: thanks for this. His ex comes to all family parties. I would have no problem with that if I also get invited in the future. I guess I need to talk to him to understand better what his vision is for the future. I’m scared of getting further involved with someone and ending up being “the girlfriend on the side”. Obviously I wouldn’t choose that for myself, so if that’s what I’m getting into, I’d prefer to know now.[/quote]

You should have known already: 7 months is a long term relationship. If he's with you, he should have invited you. His ex is not the core of the issue here. He simply doesn't want to show you as he's not that into you or plans anything long term. His ex will remain in his family life as a mom of his kids. And he sees no point in bringing you, as he doesn't plan it  to last. What do you want him to do, bringing multiple girlfriends every year to a family gathering ? of course not! This is his thinking. [/quote]

OP: But we agreed early on to not meet each other's children until we've been together at least a year (at my request), so I would not be expected to be invited at all. The issue is more whether this is a one-time thing (due to the ex's health issue), or whether vacations together will be ongoing.[/quote]

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