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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have to? No. But why wouldn’t you? It will take a few minutes and put a huge smile on your niece’s face. [/quote]

Why won’t my husband? [/quote]
[b]Because this sort of thing is a female thing. So is (in general), remembering birthdays and anniversaries[/b]. And women create these situations, and then get mad when their men forget to do it or don't do it the way the woman wanted it done.

I'm a wife of 20+ years, and believe that once you see it the way I've outlined above, it can only benefit you, and save you from being angry in these situations.[/quote]

It’s 1950s outdated sexist trash and “benefits” no one.[/quote]

+100  I blame a lot of this on the rwnjs who are trying to put women in their place back in 1950.[/quote]

Wow.  some of you guys are just ADAMENT about not having a relationship with your DH's side of the family.  Which, to be honest, feels like you're just setting yourselves up for failure[/quote]

DP.  Failure?  What failure?  Not writing postcards doesn't mean I don't have or don't want a relationship with my DH's side of the family.  What I DO want is to be able to have relationships on my terms, not what is dictated by someone else, especially people who hold outdated, patriarchal attitudes about the role of women - that includes women with those attitudes.  If my DH's family don't like what I bring to a relationship and how I bring it, fine.  Choices should be respected. [/quote]

I would do it because I would [i]want[/i] to write my nieces letters and have that connection with them, not because I was trying to cover for my husband's laziness or failings. If you and OP don't want that type of connection then don't write, but sometimes relationships are about what the other person wants and needs and not just what you want to give them. [/quote]

+1  I also would want to write my nieces letters.  I honestly cannot imagine why I wouldn't want to but, if that's you, OP, then that's you.  I admit I don't see the dividing line of my family and your family; for my husband and me, it is "our" family.[/quote]

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