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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were upfront with our daughter that she would either attend in-state or OOS public or private with merit and she had her heart set on our in-state schools. She applied early to our in-state flagship and got in and from there, applied to LACs and public colleges that give generous merit aid. She also applied to some private colleges that don't give merit aid because we had toured them and hinted that we would perhaps consider paying for Cornell. In the end, we only considered the schools that she got generous merit aid from. She has always been price-conscious and so was happy that she got into Cornell, Williams, and Carleton but didn't dwell on not going there (the preemptive chats helped with this). We decided to swing a LAC with merit aid and she's very happy there. [/quote]

I don't fully understand this post -- if Williams and Carleton were not realistic options since they don't offer sufficiently generous merit aid, why tour them and apply there?  What was the point?  [/quote]

You're right, there wasn't much point. She didn't even get to tour them at all and applied because we had offered to potentially pay full if she got in and could make a case for going there over in-state (but it wasn't very realistic because it would have substantially reduced our budget and ability to pay for things like renovations and delayed retirement). I guess she wanted to apply to schools her friends wanted to apply to and maybe convince a wealthy relative or two to chip in.[/quote]

Not PP, but we did let our children tour colleges that we would probably not be able to pay for (or get into), just for the experience. We toured NYU on a weekend trip to see relatives in NYC and we did the same for Berkeley and Stanford when visiting relatives in CA. Other friends specifically chose to visit HYPSM despite less competitive grades and budget constraints. I think as long as you and your child are on the same page and you discourage them from only having elite, full-pay schools on their lists, it's fine but I do see the point of not making specific or inconvenient trips to see colleges that aren't even an option. [/quote]

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