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[quote=Anonymous]I don't really have a "worst" as when other mothers say rude things to me, I usually just write that person off as a valid source of input. However, my main pet peeve is when people will draw conclusions about kids (or parenting) based on really limited interactions with us.

Like a mom once called my then-3yo "high maintenance" because she kept wanting me to play on the playground with her instead of playing with other kids. It was small but I remember thinking it's a weird thing to say after interacting with a kid for like an hour. I mean, my DD was 100% being high maintenance that day, but I don't consider her higher maintenance than other kids in general.

Around the same time, I remember we were leaving a playground after meeting up with a few families for a playdate, and my kid started crying when we left because she hadn't had a chance to play with a specific friend during the playdate. As we were leaving, one of the other moms turned to me and said "Oh wow, is she always like this?" It was such a weird thing to say. Like if the answer were yes (thankfully it is not), well it just comes off as incredibly judgmental. And alternatively, it's a one off (3yo kids sometimes struggle with transitions and cry, shocking I know) and it's, well, still very judgmental.

Anyway, kids are learning all the time and in the process of learning, they will act in imperfect ways. Heck, as a parent I'm also learning and I've made mistakes and learned from them too. The weird judgment is ridiculous because it indicates that you think children should just instantly acquire complex social skills and emotional regulation that usually take years to acquire (and that some adult still don't have).

These are shocking or terrible, but I've found there's just always a low level of judgment and superiority among certain parents (not just moms) and taken together it's a big exhausting.[/quote]

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