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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m struck by how many posters (though hopefully the same one, several times) are so gross that they’d want to have unpleasurable — for her— sex with a partner who they know doesn’t want it. That’s “intimacy”? What, precisely, is intimate about someone telling you to “make it quick”?[/quote]

You’d be shocked how many men feel this way. I was when I found out. For a while I thought it was just a few men but no, men like this are everywhere. “A man has needs and if you don’t meet them he will just get them somewhere else, so sorry, you gotta do it even if you hate it.” Do they care that a woman might want a good sex life too? Or that she might have other needs in life that aren’t getting met? No, they don’t care, not enough to do anything to support their wife. A lot of the guys who seem like good men are more than willing to have sex with somebody who isn’t enjoy it.

Not all men to be sure, than goodness. I have to keep in mind that even if millions of men feel this way, there are still many who don’t. And more importantly my husband isn’t like this. [/quote]

Here is something that will shock you…women are the same way. [/quote]

First of all, I don’t believe that a significant portion of women want to have sex with a partner who they know is finding it actually unpleasurable and doesn’t want to have sex. Of course women commit sexual assault too and that’s awful, but I do not think it is engrained in a large percentage  of women that men should be having unpleasurable, unwanted sex just because they’re horny. Like if you look at threads on here where a woman complains about her husband not wanting sex, she is typically told she should lose weight, her husband is depressed and needs therapy, or he’s gay. I imagine that if a man posted about his wife wanting more sex, you’d get responses along those lines, not “just lie back and tell her to make it quick,” or “take it in the anus.”

Second, you don’t come across as actually caring about these poor men who are being told to have unpleasurable sex just because their wives want it. Which is sad, because men getting sexually assaulted is a huge problem that is seriously under addressed. [/quote]

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