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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The ideal family situation is the Asian family (I'm not asian.) Both parents work and care for the kid's but the grandparents also live with or nearby and care for the family, too. The nuclear family is a catastrophe. [/quote]

I think you can really only do this for one generation though.  The parents who worked while their kids were growing up aren’t going to become the grandparents who provide free childcare for the grandkids.[/quote]

I think it’s less about will than timing.

You most often see this in immigrant families where the grandparents had kids young (either before or after immigrating) then worked really hard to give them a good life/education (often with a SAHM at first and then both parents working, sometimes with unique arrangements like a family business where kids go after school so family is together without compromising work).

But then their kids become highly educated young professionals. They have kids in their mid-30s. If these kids also don’t have kids until their mid-30s, it will be very hard for them to do for their kids what their parents did for them. Maybe a little, but by 80, a person can no longer be a childcare plan.

Also, even if you can make this work with timing, it works best if each generation only has one kid. Grandma/grandpa are not going to be the childcare plan to two households at once.[/quote]

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