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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP and Poster #3, how do you think this other little felt?  Do you care?[/quote]

I'm Poster #3 (i.e., the Dad). I have no connection whatsoever to OP, so not sure why you are asking us the same question. Or what you're driving at.

When DD relayed what happened at school I told her that I know she didn't intend to but that she hurt the other girl's feelings, probably very badly. I reminded her that I had urged her to extend an invitation (at the cost of an extra $50 to me) but that she had declined. And I told her that in the future if she gets into a situation like this again she might want to be more neutral about her reasons, like saying her party's invitations had already been set and couldn't be changed by the time she received the invitation to the other girl's party. To which she responded, "But Dad, that would be a lie. You say we aren't supposed to lie." Which begat a dicier conversation about how speaking diplomatically to spare someone's feelings isn't the same thing as lying about eating candy after she was told not to.

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Poster #3, you may have wanted to start with that story.  The one thing that I may have done differently is to explain the space issue to the other girl (or to the other girl's parents) when your DD went to the potty mouth girl's party.  "I'm so glad that Susie can be here today.  Just FYI, we are having a small party for her tomorrow but were limited on space so couldn't invite the whole class.  I hope your DD's feelings are not hurt but Susie really wanted to be here to celebrate with her on her special day."  In other words, address the awkwardness from the beginning and then its not nearly as awkward. [/quote]

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