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[quote=Anonymous]I think the best thing is to have birthday parties that either include the whole class, or just the child's 1 or 2 "best friends," which is what we did back when I was a kid-- no big bday parties, just you and a friend going out to dinner and a movie or something. (Or, Person With 5 Child Birthday party, a manicure and pedicure. Sounds like fun.)

Then, an honest explanation will suffice, and to me, hearing, "I was only allowed to invite 2 people and so of course I invited (girls who everyone knows are my best friends); you're so lucky you get to have a big party!" is nice. Hearing, "I was only allowed to invite 5 people," is less nice, because once you get to a number bigger than 3, I think, it becomes more of a popularity contest...

While I, too, like the idea of a small, but not-to-small, party-- 5 kids sounds ideal!-- I would feel horribly guilty not inviting all the kids whose parents' have invited DD to their kids' parties over the last year or so, and when I begin thinking of that, the invite list is way too long, so we just do family parties and let everybody know about it in advance. You can send a treat into school. Reciprocity is important if you don't want people to start turning against you and stop issuing invitations, so I try to model it and teach it.

(In the interest of remaining fully relevant to the topic at hand, I should mention that I wrote this while on the toilet.)[/quote]

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