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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the OP of the thread on whether Ellyn Sattler works for kids who can’t regulate their food intake.  My daughter is definitely overweight, and has no “off” switch when it comes to food she likes (not just junk, but anything she really likes.).  Always has been like this.   But she now wants to lose weight, and I’m really struggling with how to approach it for all the reasons given here.  A week of trying Sattler’s approach has led to, I would guess, a doubling in my child’s consumption for the week (and I assure you she was not going hungry before).   Even she said “I’m not going to lose weight eating whatever I want.”  I don’t care what my daughter looks like—she takes my breath away with her beauty.  But she gets made fun of for being fat, and I don’t know how to help her in a way that doesn’t lead to more issues later.  So I feel for you, OP.  [/quote]

If she’s really overeating, she will be in pain. Does she eat past the point of pain? Does she not realize when her stomach is full?
Our bodies want healthy food. We all know it’s fun maybe once to eat a whole pizza, but if you eat an entire pizza everyday, you will very obviously not feel good. At first when you start eating intuitively, you’re still learning about what hunger and fullness means, so it might take a little while.
So either your daughter is ignoring her body/doesn’t understand her body, or…. Maybe she’s just genetically programmed to be big? And if so, is that really what you want for your daughter’s life - an everyday struggle to eat less than she wants to eat, and to always hate and be at war with her body? Why not just let her be a bigger person? I’m not saying like my-600-lb life big, but plenty of women are “overweight” and still very healthy and it’s just how their body is. I feel bad she’s getting made fun of, but kids get made fun of for lots of things - curly hair, glasses, etc etc etc.[/quote]

NP, but you can’t control whether your child has curly hair or wears glasses, but you can control whether they are overweight because they have an atrocious diet.[/quote]

Being overweight is not healthy.  I know 20 year olds with serious gastro issues from their diets.  I know 50 year olds who got knee replacments.
Now at 62 they need new knee replacements to replace the first replacement.  I could go on and on and on.  I'm currently living in one of the poorest counties in Maryland. The obesity is pretty amazing.  People don't live long here either.[/quote]

But restricting food has proven over and over again to lead to even more weight gain. It’s better to go through life at a set point that is consistently 10-20 lbs overweight than to always be dieting than regaining between your goal weight and 30+ lbs over that. And the regaining always follows the restricting.[/quote]

This works for those who will be 10-20 Ibs overweight if they stopped restricting.

I have to be concious to stay at  the 15-20 Ibs overweight range, which I am at now.

But if I just ate everything I wanted to eat, I'd be at over 30-40 Ibs overweight.

The current restrictions I have are worth it to keep the extra pounds off.[/quote]

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