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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That crazy, they've known one of these girls since she was 2! She doesn't remember her life before them! How heartless. Regardless, you should let the girls take the trip and take them somewhere else, like the beach. Maybe something older girls will enjoy more, like New York. I'm sorry. [/quote]

And you got knocked up by a guy who had a one and 3 year old. Gross [/quote]

They were probably an affair.   [/quote]

^ Yup. Explains OPs attempts to have a fairy tale family. Trying to minimize the guilt. [/quote]

I was a little puzzled by the grandparents but this is a good explanation for the timeline and the grandparents' behavior. OP is trying to make a "perfect family" to assuage some of the guilt of being the AP, while the grandparents are trying to be sure their bio grandkids feel "special" and get treated well given that they lost their intact family early. [/quote]
Lol you people really don’t have enough going on that you have to spin fantastical stories about this family to fit your preferred position that the grandparents are in the right? OP has a good relationship with her stepkids’ mom (unlikely if she was an AP), which I know is not as fun as imagining OP was an AP and her parents are just trying to right that wrong, but come on. [/quote]

What other scenario gets you a kid 2 years younger than their half-sibling. I mean, it's possible that OP's older child is the result of a ONS with a newly-divorced guy but Occam's Razor and all....[/quote]
Seriously, there are options here including the mind blowing concept that the guy and his 1st wife split while she was pregnant with the 2nd child, or they stuck it out through the pregnancy thinking baby would help but after baby was here realized that it wasn’t going to work and separated. And how does any of that matter 12 years later when OP has a good relationship with her stepkids and stepkids’ mom? [/quote]

That could be the case, but if I’m OP’s parents, I could totally see questioning just how ready this guy is for marrying again. How much time has he spent figuring out what he contributed to the break up of a marriage, what does commitment actually mean to him? I can see why OP’s parents could be leery and reluctant to consider these daughters (whom they don’t often see) as anymore than people who will temporarily be in their lives.

From my own experience, I was from my parent’s first marriage. They divorced when I was 3, and my dad immediately remarried. That lasted ten years, and my stepmom’s family gave us gifts, were very kind to us. Then once the second divorce happened, we never heard from them again. This scenario is not that uncommon. I totally get why the grandparents did not fully embrace this. There are a lot transient relationships, even in “families.”[/quote]

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