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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This debate is so silly. I have numerous friends in their 40s born to moms over 35 because many many women had their final baby at 43 back then. I have many friends now that had kids over 35. Most, in fact. People don’t look at the “research” when they decide to have children. It’s based on where they are in their lives. The risks discussed in this thread like increased risk of generic abnormalities are known and so tested for. Most children with Down syndrome for example are born to younger mothers. Older ones are more aggressively screened. The judgment on here needs to tone way, way down. If a woman over 40 is having a child and is financially good and in a stable relationship, let’s worry about her less than the woman in her early 30s who is broke with no support system. It is all relative. Risk is a relative concept and personal assessments of it will vary. [/quote]

Here is one where it doesn’t apply to her, she is exempt. [/quote]

Yes, but she then says that older mothers are more aggressively screened. But argues that it’s relative. What?![/quote]

What are you not getting? How is anyone arguing they’re exempt? You’re having a total straw man argument with yourself. Yes, the risk goes up relatively for age for things like chromosome issues. Nobody debates that. Older women get extra screening. Women as sentient beings are capable of weighing this risk against other factors like financial status, time, career, relationship. Their calculus may be different than yours. Why does that chap you so?[/quote]

Ask yourself why are you so chapped?[/quote]

DP.  I had my last child at 42.  Unexpected, though very much welcome pregnancy.  She’s healthy, I’m healthy.  I followed all the guidelines given by my providers, since I was AMA.
What, would you have preferred I had scheduled an abortion as soon as I found out, all because I was over 40?
What is your goal here, exactly?[/quote]

Must have been an immaculate conception then if it was unexpected. I certainly know how pregnancy happens and would assume a 42 year old would. Therefore, it couldn’t been unexpected. Btw, just because you did at 42 doesn’t mean you weren’t old in terms of child bearing years. You are trying to normalize it. [/quote]

I was infertile.  My older DD was born when I was 37, after years of infertility treatment, IVF, and FETs.  Additional attempts at pregnancy after her birth failed, and I had been told by several doctors, including 2 REs, that it was highly unlikely I would ever get pregnant again.  So…yes, unexpected.
You do you.  [/quote]

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