Reply to Ramifications of marrying outside of your social class

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Ramifications of marrying outside of your social class"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His family was always jealous of our money and believed it much more than we really had. As if just being upper middle class made you extremely wealthy when in reality it isn't that different from middle class. I think this played a large part in our marriage's downfall although on the most prevalent issue.

He ended up abusing my money with no repercussions from his family. Took out credit cards without telling me and ran us into debt. Once the sister was saying she was really busy with his mom and I offered to help and she showed me all the projects she wanted me to fund. She lived in the home at no expense to take care of the parents. Also asked me to fund a trip overseas. I had meant maybe I can get my husband to call more and send care packages.

The bigger issues were that he couldn't relate to any of my friends. He loved the lifestyle and thought our friends were nice but couldn't converse well and make any really strong friends. He also just had a lot of bad habits that I didn't pick up on during the courtship and his mind started to deteriorate as he grew older. Maybe this could happen to anyone but eventually found out he had a lot of mental health issues. So the biggest issue I've found is that [b]a lot of poorer people have mental health issues [/b]which  makes marriage difficult. This also happened to another friend of mine and I've now seen how many adopted children from poorer families have mental health issues so these seems to be a recurring trend during my lifetime.[/quote]

This actually isn’t the case. Mental health problems are distributed fairly evenly among the classes. [/quote]

There is no way they are evenly distributed. I'll have to do some sleuthing to prove but just common sense and general reading and history has proved this wrong. Maybe some people don't have the means to get help but there is no way that upper middle class people have the same amount and intensity of mental health problems as the lower classes.[/quote]

This isn’t true at all. Studies also show that upper middle class kids are far more likely to do drugs than poor and working class kids. You’re experiencing cognitive dissonance which is why it’s Hard for you to believe.

I also believe you’re a troll.[/quote]

Not a troll. And basic real estate proves that poor neighborhoods have more crime and are more unsafe. Not desirable. [/quote]

Hahaha, take a look at the SAT testing accommodations, eating disorders, gender stuff, etc - going by those metrics, it's the rich neighborhoods where all the mental illnesses are brewing. [/quote]

What are you talking about?  Special Ed is way higher at Lewis than Langley. Probably the same for all the other things you’ve mentioned not to mention a good part of Langley boundary is at TJ or private schools. Lewis and Mount Vernon are around 20 percent college readiness and Langley is close to 90%. Yeah people are really clamoring to get away from Langley to go to Lewis and Mount Vernon because of the mental health issues in the rich neighborhoods. You are living in a dream world that some how lines up every poor person with every positive attribute and ever rich person with every negative attribute and the world just doesn’t work that way. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics