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Cutting through the noise to the most important point...

... OP would be a lot more credible if she had at least tried, and then concluded that nursing was not for her.

This is because breast milk is truly the undisputed better choice, and it's right there and easy to attempt. If it doesn't work, there's nothing easier than to grab a bottle and formula-feed! My mother tried to breastfeed and it didn't work, so I was formula-fed. I breast-fed my son until I had to take an emergency radioactive exploratory treatment, which meant stopping breastfeeding cold turkey that day in the ER. These things happen, no one is to blame.

But not even trying shows the deep-rooted anxiety that are crippling OP and forcing her to pick a certain path in life. It's a little sad she cannot or will not seek treatment for her fight or flight mindset. I can only hope that she realizes that mindset will lead to more questionable decisions in the future, if she doesn't so something about it.
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“Credible”? Seriously?

She doesn’t have to try to breastfeed. She really doesn’t. Yes, there are health benefits, but nothing so crucial that a new mom should be bullied and shamed because she doesn’t want to do something that she believes will be very painful for her. There is NO parenting issue that justifies some of the shaming happening here.

OP is perfectly credible to her own experience and doesn’t need to justify her decision to any of you. Y’all will pick apart whatever reason an OP gives and make her out to be a sh*tty mom no matter what she chooses. Breastfeed and potentially you’re excluding your partner from feeding / being a mommy martyr / etc. If you breastfeed for too long, there’s something wrong with you and you’re selfish because it couldn’t possibly be about your kid’s needs. Quit breastfeeding early, and face being told you’re a selfish mom because you can’t give your kid this one thing right out of the gate. Nurse in public and you’re an exhibitionist. Decline to nurse in public and you’re a prude. No one can win this game, especially not here.

OP, it’s possible your experience wouldn’t have been as bad as you fear, but who cares?! It’s your choice.

- breastfed 2 kids a total of 5 years and have only ever asked about breastfeeding when a new mom brings it up, which they usually do if they want to talk about it[/quote]

I am an extended breastfeeder and these ladies are totally nuts. It is entirely possible to go about one’s life without demanding this information from new mothers or berating them for formula. I nursed all my kids to almost age three and I have literally never asked some poor mom if they are breastfeeding. Also, I think it is totally fine not to breastfeed.

These women are so weird, how they live their lives entirely through their breasts. It is creepy. [/quote]

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