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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most women hate men on here so you won’t find them liking the advice.

I think most of those books in general are silly, but I have a very traditional marriage. [b]I enjoy taking care of my husband pleasing and that includes cooking for him, sex usually whenever he wants, and alone time for him and us as a couple. In return he is a provider for our family. [/b]This doesn’t mean he is lazy - he does a lot of cooking, cleaning, and helping raise our kids, but I do think we have more defined roles and it works for us. He supports and respects me and I do the same for him. You would be surprised how easy supportive and loving a husband is when he has a wife who appreciates and respects him.

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omg.. this made me barf. But, ok, you do you.

-signed happily married for 20 yrs woman[/quote]

To each their own but it works for us. Some women actually enjoy being caretakers for their family. Sounds like you’re not one of them. I’m glad you felt like you needed to respond like a 5 year old. It shows your level of maturity. [/quote]

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I don't think the cringe-worthy poster is a troll. There are people out there like this. If it works for them, fine.  But it's cringe-worthy. [/quote]

Why is it cringe-worthy? A couple who supports each other (in different but important ways) and love and respect each other. It sounds nice to me. [/quote]
The fact that I have to explain why the post sounds cringe-worthy makes me cringe.

My DH and I support each other -- we both work, we both cook, we both do laundry, though I am the one who keeps track of when the laundry needs to be done. DH does 90% of the grocery shopping.  I make 50% of our HHI.  DH does half if not more of the pickups/drop offs.

I manage all the finances and taxes, which is complicated due to our situation.

At one point, I was a sahm, and I did all the housechores, childcare, grocery shopping, even ironed his work shirts.  And that was fine. I chose to do it, but I would not say it's my way of "supporting DH". It was "our" way of lessening the stress of our homelife.

The words "supporting my DH" by cooking his food, cleaning up after him, doing his laundry makes it sound like you are his maid, and him "providing for you" makes it sound very transactional, and very very old fashioned.[/quote]
Well said. [/quote]

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