Reply to The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, I am not a troll and as I nust stated above I found this book interesting and made me aware to be less self centered snd more grateful in my marriage. I live in US but I am originally from an other country so when I picked up the book I didn’t know about the controversies and the cultural wars surronding the author. I just wanted a feed back from other women who read the book because, until not long ago, I could have published a post full of complaints about my spouse too. This book is helping ME and MY marriage. Maybe could help somebody else too but instead of a respectful discussion about the content of the book, the thread is mutating in a very aggressive dems vs reps war. I don’t care about politics, or taking sides; this is not what this thread was intended to be!![/quote]

I hear you op. I get it.  People on DCUM can’t help themselves.  We live in an “outrage culture”, and if people see an opportunity to be offended, they’ll take it.

I used to listen to Dr Laura, way back in the day, and read her books.  I think there’s a lot of good info in her books and I certainly found some nuggets of wisdom.   DCUM just isn’t capable of separating the work from the person or discussing this sort of thing, unfortunately.  Sorry about that.  [/quote]

That is not true. I can't speak for others, but I don't see people saying "Dr. Laura is wrong about some things so anything she says is wrong." She says a number of things that you can call "nuggets of wisdom," like (and I just googled this), "make decisions from the strong part of you, not the weak." Great! But Dr. Laura also says a lot of things that are potentially damaging, like "Men are very easy to get along with--they just want to come home to something pleasant." No, some men are intentionally abusive and want control, and if a woman who has been gaslit reads that, she's going to think that if something is wrong, she just needs to try harder, continuing the abusive cycle. Or "men are very easy--you treat them well, they behave right. You don't treat them well, and they don't behave right." No, you cannot manipulate a man into behaving. You can only control your own behavior (which she also says, so some of her advice is contradictory).

I often think people can be wrong but you can take the good and leave that bad. But in the case of Dr. Laura, that's a dicey proposition. If somebody reads those things and thinks they're making her marriage better, I frankly don't take it at face value. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics