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He pays her in cash?!?  Sorry, OP, this is not looking good. [/quote]

Don’t be so dramatic. Many people get paid in cash. It is a way to avoid paying taxes on side gigs. [/quote]

Right.  DW keeps withdrawing cash to pay DD's piano teacher for weekly instruction.

Guys.....do you think DW is sleeping with the piano teacher?!?![/quote]

DP. Does the imaginary piano teacher charge $100 an hour/$50 a half-hour? Nope. That would be some very high-level piano instruction. Unless the imaginary DD is a piano prodigy and the teacher is a conservatory professor, no imaginary DW is paying $100 an hour.

The real OP's real DH is paying $100 an hour for tutoring. Unless he's getting very high level instruction and the tutor has some serious language instruction qualifications beyond the norm, that is way too much to pay per hour for tutoring he's getting just out of personal interest in the language. Or possibly the tutor is overcharging and the DH is a sucker who doesn't realize it. But OP said, didn't she?, that he's had other language instruction over the years, so he should know this rate is very high.

That's why OP is right to be concerned. Even if he's not sleeping with the tutor -- and I'm not convinced he is -- he sounds like he's either naive about what to pay or is buying a sob story about her being a poor grad student so he's paying too much out of pity. It can happen. But it's unwise at best, and a red flag for cheating at worst.

As for the $150 Christmas gift bonus, that was actually less of a red flag to me. When our DD had piano lessons, we usually gave the teacher another $100 or so at Christmas as a bonus. The teacher came to our house each week from a bit of a distance and she was great with our DD, so a good Christmas check was fine by us; we knew and liked her, too. But a big Christmas gift when the DH is paying too much for the per-hour tutoriing? Again, either naive of him, or fishy.

OP, I think you're tiptoeing around too much. You need to say point blank that you have checked and found that $100 an hour is exorbitant and you honestly feel strange and, yes, suspicious. Others here will yell not to do this as he will only hide more if you confront, but do you really want to be messing around with "accidentally" finding receipts or dropping hints? Use your words. If he's balky, tell him you take that as your answer that you have a reason to be concerned. [/quote]

Looks like OP caught a live one.

PP, this post is satire aka not real.  [/quote]

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