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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]ou have described parenting, not contact. 
Sounds like you want to set up the argument so that you sound right. .

It is about the child having options to meet their needs (and answer their questions). Their needs are likely to change as they grow. They don't NEED two sets of parents, but having two sets of parents might be made easier if one is not a mysterious black box. The child may want to know what they look like, what their health was and why they were unable to raise them themselves.

You, the adoptive parent, know your story. Your child will want to know theirs.[/quote]

There is a BIG range between "knowing your story" and "open adoption".  I am all for adopted kids knowing ---in age appropriate progression---their personal story and  I am all in favor of providing birth families periodic updates on the adopted child. As a parent via adoption, I do both of those things and our children are healthier for it.   I am not in favor of "open" adoptions where birth family has the right to float in and out of the child's life at will.  That creates a destabilizing effect on the child and also on the adoptive family---who are reduced to role of caretakers and funders---not parents.  I really dislike the trend-chasing in the social work industry.  Family reunification as the dominant end-all, be-all policy in foster care and push for open adoptions as the optimal form of adoption are two trends which I think should be re-evaluated.[/quote]

I definitely agree that family reunification is often favored, whether or not it is in the best interest of the child.  That is wrong.[/quote]

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