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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it insulting that a woman who is highly educated will be willing to SAHM, to do all the housework etc. I wonder if this is also what they preach to their daughters? Yeah, I will pay for your college and grad school but please find a high potential husband so that you can be a good SAHM for him?[/quote]

I find it insulting that you don't think women who are highly educated should have the choice.  My parents were like you.  I no longer speak to them.  I am so thankful my husband gave me the choice (and financially it didn't pay for me to work but [b]he would have supported me if I choose to work[/b]) was I didn't realize it was even an option.  I regret going back at all before quitting.  I was miserable.  Child care was as much as my take home and it was impacting my husband's job because I often could not leave on time to do the day care pick up.[/quote]

It sounds like your husband didn't give you the support you needed at home, which is why you quit your job. Since you didn't need to work, why didn't you get a nanny instead of day care? You wouldn't have had to worry about doing day care pick up. Also, maybe your husband should have done some of the pick-ups, too.
It also sounds like your parents didn't help either. My parents would be livid if, with my PhD, I quit my job. (But, I understand your frustration, my parents didn't help us very much when our kids were babies. I thought about quitting then, too.)

My bigger concern is that the more often highly educated women, with graduate degrees even, quit to support their husbands and children, it makes it harder for women who stay in the workforce to get promoted because bosses will think that they'll promote moms only to have them leave.

Ladies, we need to get our men to do more of the heavy lifting!!! It may be too late for this generation, but let's raise our boys to learn to carry the mental load.

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This is exactly the point.  By volunteering to take care of home and kids stuff, SAHMs are keeping the traditions in place both at home and also for the ones in the office. That is why we still don't get paid leave, day care subsidy and other benefits as a society, because there is always a woman who can take care of these at home.[/quote]

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