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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I am a SAHM. Not really by choice. I’d love to work again. But we have too many kids and preschool/school is very unpredictable with covid/quarantines. Preschool pickup is at noon. I have about 2.5 hours of “leisure time” between the last drop off and first pick up. This is when I grocery shop, clean, and put laundry away. (DH is usually home for most of that time… being a sloth.) So leisurely. We haven’t had a full week of school for the kids in many weeks (months?) due to covid. Prior to staying home, I was a FCPS teacher. No flexibility, stressful, and not enough pay to cover a FT nanny or FT daycare for littles and after care for bigs. I’m trapped.

I’ll look into Al-anon, thank you for the suggestion.  [/quote]
Mmm, yeah. Kids are your job then. Since you ha e half-day care for your kids, you are doing better than most SAH parents in terms of 'free' time. Also better than most WOH parents who do drop-off, work, pick-up with no time to do chores uninterrupted since kids are home when they are.[/quote]

So to be clear, OPs job is 14.5 hours with a 2.5 hour break, and DH works 8 hours, minus whatever time he’s goofing off at work, and that’s equal?

I thought men were supposed to be so good at math and STEM?[/quote]
Preschool age lids are not awake 14.5 hours total per day, honestly. Between the 7:30 bedtime and the 1/2 day 'school' and the afternoon nap, OP is probably spending about the same amount of time with her kids as jer husband is working. Figure 1 hour in the AM to get ready for school, husband drops off, pick up at noon, 1 hour nap and 7:30 bedtime and she is spending about 7.5 -8 hours with the kids.[/quote]

Bad at math and you can’t read either?  Her oldest is 7. There’s no 7:30 bedtime, and there is definitely more than an hour in the morning. [/quote]
She said home at 7 misses the evening/bedtime routine, so, yeah, 7:30 or 8 is gonna be the end of her day.[/quote]

“The bulk of” the evening routine. That begins with dinner prep, likely around 4pm. I seriously doubt her 7 y/o is in bed before 8:30. So she gets a 14.5 hour day with a 2.5 hour break, during which she does the families housework, and her “partner” goes to work for 8 hours counting his commute, probably goofs off for at least an hour at work, and then does nothing at home.  And this is equal, you say?[/quote]
Do you think that OPs spouse makes enough to pay for her to stay home and pay for childcare by 'goofing around' all day? Heck I imagine he's putting in a significant amount of work to make that kind of money in a 40 hour week.[/quote]

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