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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It amazes me that people on DCUM have such rich families they are disappointed the parents don't offer to pay for flights in addition to accomodations. I can't even imagine. [/quote]

It amazes me you don't get it. It's not like this a trip OP wants to go on to a wonderful place and she gets the bonus of some parts paid for. It's a manipulative "gift" where she is still forced to pay a chunk of money and take off from work.

If your spouse is on board, you politely decline. These days Covid is a great excuse. Give a nice gift with heartwarming card and be done. Let the chips/drama fall where it may.[/quote]

Dp. Imagine if the in-laws only invited blood relatives on this trip?  I can guesswhat people would say!  My in law is taking us on a vacation and yes it isn't where I would choose but, I am accepting of it because their intentions are good...ie wants to spend time with us.

Op maybe you should bow out now and let your dh/kids have the fun.  Maybe your inlaws will be happy/unhappy but at least you won't be miserable.[/quote]

But they’re not “taking them on vacation”. OP and family will still have to spend thousands of dollars on a vacation they wouldn’t choose for themselves.

I agree OP should bow out and let her husband wrangle three kids around a national park by himself and be responsible for all child care for a week while she rests at home. I would love it if my husband took the kids on a trip to see his parents without me! [/quote]

How often are they going to retire and turn 70 though?  Is this an every two year thing or a once in blue moon thing?    Op is perfectly within her right to decline but, we don't know what the dh wants or if he or the kids ARE excited.  It is all about op not wanting to go.  How old are the kids?  Did op mention?  Perhaps with the grandparents dh could handle all three.[/quote]

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