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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound super critical and not emotionally supportive.

Why not just tell her you love her and she's 22 and can be anything she wants to be?  It will take hustle and work, but she can be an artist or work in a snazzy art gallery or whatever she wants.  Even if she's not thrilled with her marketing degree, you're proud of her for getting it because it taught her some skills and is a great backup plan that will pay the bills while she works on her next step.  It will be the joy of your life watching her come into her own as an adult and you can't wait to see what she becomes.

Just love her and have faith in her.  Acknowledge life is hard.  Share stories where you worked hard to get on your feet as an adult or had bad jobs or bad bosses.  Let her know you think she can do amazing things but don't try to orchestrate them for her.  [/quote]
OP does not sound overly critical and emotionally unsupportive. If anything, she sounds like a saint, who if fed up with her DD's BS!
Her DD is 22 years old for gosh's sake! If she wants to be an artist she can become an artist! But, she wants mom to "make" her into an artist while she watchess Netflix.[/quote]
Oh come on, OP was clearly gloating that her DD didn't sell a single piece of art, like it justified her not encouraging her daughter to pursue art.  She could have instead told the same story, but it could have been about her daughter putting herself out there and trying and being discouraged.  Not all kids would have even tried.  There's being actually supportive and being "supportive."[/quote]

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