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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does it matter if someone chooses to hide their list? 
When people send paper invites or individual text invites 
You don’t know who else is invited.

Also as kids get older they start inviting select friends and not the whole class, or budget  reasons and some families might not be able to Invite the whole class. Either way why would you bring up a party to someone if you don’t know who else is invited ? I never bring it up and if someone asks for weekend plans I just say “oh we have a birthday Saturday and not too much going on Sunday “ why do you have to give specifics. 
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I’m honestly wondering if some of you people have friends in real life that you actually talk to… Maybe COVID really did a number on your social skills. I wouldn’t mention a kid’s party specifically in order to put some sort of state secret. I would mention the kid if my friend’s kid is also friends with them for many of the reasons noted here. If you don’t want people talking about your super special secret party, then let them know who else is invited! It’s really that simple. [/quote]

Sorry not sorry that I have better things to talk to my friends about than my children's social lives?[/quote]

I just get the feeling that you don’t talk to your friends much. We interact a lot in my neighborhood - going for a walk together after the kids get on the bus, taking a lunch break from work and eating together (this isn’t some sort of formal sit down, we have literally all just brought sandwiches from home but eaten them together at the park we can walk to), playing poker on a weeknight, book club, hanging out at the pool on the weekend. I don’t know, I see and talk to my friends a lot (and we all work and all have husbands who work). The first topic of conversation isn’t our kids’ social lives (which, by the way, isn’t the reason a party comes up), it’s because we’re discussing our weekend plans, which is a totally normal thing to do! [/quote]

I think the difference is who you are friends with vs other people. [/quote]

Also, it sounds like you live in one of the neighborhoods described in the "cliquey neighborhood" thread. A lot of us don't live (or want to live) in neighborhoods like that. I like my neighbors, but they're not my only or best friends.[/quote]

No, our neighborhood isn’t cliquey. Yes, we do things together, like a holiday brunch or a Halloween party, but there’s no group of people who are in charge of it all, nor anyone who is excluded. My best friend doesn’t live in my neighborhood, she lives four hours away. My best college friends also don’t live in my neighborhood, they all live 3-4 hours away. (That’s all a fluke, by the way, I grew up on the west coast and went to college up north but we’ve all settled around this area). I do have neighborhood friends to whom I am close, however. And we spend time together because we enjoy each other’s company but also of course due to proximity. So because we may run into each other on the weekend, and because our kids attend the same school and have many of the same friends, it’s a completely normal thing for a birthday party to come up in conversation. That’s what I don’t think some people get - no one is looking to gossip or social climb or whatever other weird things you seem to think is happening when people discuss a kid’s party. It’s a legitimate, informal, casual conversation about weekend plans, and it’s easier if you know who is going for multiple reasons. But whatever, diss my neighborhood (which isn’t Vienna, McLean, Bethesda, or any of the others mentioned in the cliquey neighborhood thread), if it makes you feel better. [/quote]

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