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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. Some people can love their spouse and have an affair. In the mind of the spouse having an affair, they are looking for an escape. If they aren’t having sex with their spouse, that escapes is a sexual relationship. If they have other emotional problems, the affair can be a coping mechanism. It’s ego, entitlement, secrecy. People do bad things all the time. It doesn’t mean they don’t love their spouse. It’s a compartmentalized act.

Some counselors that people have an affair because the cheating partner does love their spouse. If they didn’t love their spouse, they would just divorce. The fact that they lie, hide, and stay in the relationship is because they do love their spouse. [/quote]

No.  They reason they stay is not love, but because they want something from their spouse - household management, access to the kids, social standing as a good parent, financial stability.

Despite my now exDH professing he loved me, he did not. He wanted the facade that I provided. I was merely his beard so he could appear to others as a nice guy, a good dad, a family man, have regular sex (while he was also sleeping with others), access to my earning potential, etc.

That is not love. [/quote]

This. Abuse is not love.  And yes cheating is a form of abuse.[/quote]

Bbbbbut he confessed and went to therapy on his own like a big boy plus hos (who are always women) gonna ho and we’re going to have a beautiful vow renewal!  So excuse you for not being on team true love won. So embarrassing of you to defend the pathetic wannabe destroyers of true love who keep getting these guys to drop trou involuntarily. [/quote]

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