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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand where you are coming from and your sentiment about the situation. It feels unjust that your friend had to endure so much pain and humiliation while there appears to be no consequences for her ex.

I get it and want to point to something from my own experience. In high school I was bullied unmercifully by a boy a couple years older than me (I’m female FWIW). He’d throw things at me in the parking lot, scream foul obscenities, mock me, tell me that I needed to commit suicide. I literally did nothing to him and had very little interaction with him previously. His behavior, and that of several others in his circle, fundamentally transformed how I saw myself as a person, left me anxious and fearful of literally everyone, and made me not want to leave the house, ever. I was so scared of him that I refused to go to school and nearly flunked out.

Fast forward 20 years. He died an untimely death in a sports accident. The amount of the outpouring of love, admiration for, and happy stories from growing up with him that he received on social media that I saw really shook me up. This was a boy that I knew a very different side of. I was terrified of him. He was crude and hateful. How could so many people see nothing bit the opposite? It made me angry and once again had me questioning my own self worth.

People show certain sides to themselves to certain audiences. It does not make them a good person just because they’re fun and cool toward one person. It doesn’t diminish the value and love that person brought to others if they happened to be a jerk to someone else. I’ve always believed that we have a karmic path on this earth in which there are certain experiences we need to have to become our best selves. I’m on mine, and he was on his. Your friend is on hers, and her ex is on his. Please don’t take this to mean she got what she deserves. Most folks have a pretty narrow understanding of what karma is. If she can understand that these experiences are intended at the highest level for her greater good, then all of this wasn’t wasted. It takes time and it is hard. But it’s required. All the best to her. [/quote]

Gobbledygook.[/quote]

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