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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two, or even three, things can be true at the same time:

1. Taking a “no outside contact” vacation is good and healthy for individuals and relationships.
2. The person who is accustomed to daily contact and will not be getting it can have a hard time with that.
3. A mother can want to talk directly to her son (that she is accustomed to talking to one-on-one daily) to understand the decison.  And to hopefully hear from him why it is important and why she shouldn’t worry.

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#3 is the only point I disagree with. Again it goes back to why does a married couple owe MIL an explanation as to why? DIL already stated that they are doing no screen times for both sides of the family and friends for 2 weeks. The son and his wife is an adult who can make decisions for themselves without them needing to run it by mommy or giving mommy an explanation for it. They don't owe her a why. Again them being a married couple who makes decisions for themselves and all.

Isn't the bigger concern here that mother can't let her son breathe and go 2 weeks without talking to him clearly there are enmeshment issues on mom's end here. What is their to worry about? Again we are assuming son doesn't have any major health issues at play as I'm sure OP would have mentioned that in her original post.

I understand MIL is used to daily contact with her son but that doesn't mean they are out of line for setting the boundaries now. MIL just has to deal with their decision and get over it. Their relationship as a married couple comes before the mother/son relationship.

I'm baffled that some people on here thinks the mother is entitled to her son justifying their decision to her or to in a sense get her permission or that she is even an owed an explanation in the first place.

For a normal health mother/son relationship the correct response and normal response should and would be ok guys I will miss talking to you son but I understand that you guys want to connect as a married couple without interruptions but I can't wait to hear all about your trip when you get back.[/quote]

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