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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got a high every time we talked so it was fun. I mean I just looked forward to hearing from her. I don’t know what’s happened to me and why I’m a mess over this and have been for the past week. I can’t eat or exercise. I can barely go to work. I constantly think of future convos with her.

I’m trying to figure out how to snap out of it. I appreciate the tough love of Dcum. I do seem pathetic. There was a day last week I couldn’t get out of bed and I just can’t figure out why. 
Our marriage hasn’t been great and I guess I just sought attention elsewhere and got hooked[/quote]

You literally describe her like a drug. So treat it that way - like an addiction to heroin or cocaine. That’s why you couldn’t resist contacting her during the off-limits time period - you needed a fix. You are in withdrawal, which is very painful, but necessary. And you were self-medicating what perhaps was depression or a deep unhappiness, which will benefit you to work through in therapy.[/quote]

The addiction talk is a symptom of how he doesn’t want to assume agency for this. It’s not like it happened to him, he had choices along the way and this is what he chose to do with it. Including texting her during off limits time. Sounds like he’s addicted to irresponsibility.[/quote]

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