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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want a teen now, I will loan you mine!

When you wake up at 5:45am to pee, you might discover
 A. they actually haven’t come home yet and haven’t texted you to say where they are 
 B. They texted you at 1am to let you know “FYI” that a new girlfriend stayed overnight with them, and presumably is still in their bedroom 
 C. They texted you at 3am to say the car battery died, can you pick them up? Then lots more “?” texts but no actual update on what happened or where they are
 
I could go on and on….😭[/quote]

I can't even imagine the ass-whooping I would have gotten if I had done any of those things.

there is literally a 0% change my kids will ever do A, B, or C.  ZERO[/quote]

Absolutely. Privileges are earned. No freedom without responsibility. If I missed the bus I missed school and got detention and missed after school activities. No cell phones back in my day so if you forget gear or a form, it's on you not your parent. Scream at me for 15 minutes??? I do not do things for people who treat me badly, you're showing your kid how to let people treat them if you allow them to treat you like garbage.

Admittedly, my kids are 7,7 and 10 but if they whine about setting the table then they have to also sweep the floor, whine about that and you mop the kitchen. My 10 yr old is starting with friend drama and I got her Judy Blume books to show her that, although the pain is real, it's a part of life and growing up and becoming someone who can solve problems and, really, all kids go through this. It's my job to help her become a functioning adult and the amount of autotomy she has is directionally proportional to the sense she shows.[/quote]

You have no self awareness or reflection, do you? You sound so sure of everything... Me, me, me... Newsflash, you are not your kids!
You have not raised teens, and if you had an ounce of reasoning, you would be aware of that, and admit that you do not know how you will handle it as you never did handle it, but you hope this is how you would handle it.
Only stupid people know everything and are certain that other people are morons.[/quote]

I’ve been a teen and made mistakes and, as a parent, it’s up to me to help my own kid not screw their life up. As a parent you must be your teen’s brain and keep them safe as you do your toddler. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2475802/

I do not think I know everything but certainly know more than a teenager.

“ An increase in activity in the prefrontal regions as an indication of maturation (Rubia et al. 2000; Rubia et al. 2006; Tamm et al. 2002) and diminished activity in irrelevant brain regions (Brown et al. 2005; Durston et al. 2006; Monk et al. 2003) are described as the neurobiological explanation for the behavioral changes associated with adolescence. This general pattern, of improved cognitive control and emotion regulation with maturation of the prefrontal cortex, suggests a linear increase in development from childhood to adulthood.”[/quote]

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