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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a sexless marriage and I would much MUCH rather be cheated on. This is far worse abandonment than if my spouse had sex with someone else.[/quote]

But there is no cheating in a sexless marriage. Sexless equals open.[/quote]

The topic is “does anyone care about cheating”.

I had a very active sex life and good marriage so it was traumatic, but I imagine anytime someone lies to your face and betrays you even without the inherent health risks I had to worry about it is pretty awful.

The mental images and re-examining and questioning what was real and the time they said they were at X or had a work trip- was that one true or was that a cover.  What was said, what was done, how could they, etc?  It’s awful years later.[/quote]

Agree.  And it doesn't matter what YOU think.  It matters what your partner (the person you lie to, expose to disease, gaslight) thinks.  If you are married and know that they never agreed to infidelity/being cheated on/dealbreaker and you married under these circumstances--it really doesn't matter if you think it's okay and the married floozy you are doing it with who hates her husband also thinks 'no big deal. it's just sex'.  That misses the point completely.  You have broken your partner's trust and sense of well-being forever.[/quote]

Yep.  And the fallout when the betrayed spouse finds out us years of therapy and antidepressants to get over the huge pain of being betrayed by the person that was supposed to have their back in this life, were thick as thieves, gave everything—-pain and trauma like that forever changes someone.  So these people that play with others lives and have some deep attachment trauma from their your where marriage and vows and trust and integrity mean nothing-  wonderful.  But, unless you and your spouse agreed it’s okay to sleep with others, you area complete scumbag.[/quote]

Why is this such a deep betrayal? Don't you have a desire to sleep with someone else? While no one wants their spouse to cheat, it's a very understandable mistake people make.[/quote]

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