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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nate was being kind with strings attached. He tricked her-even if he didn’t mean to. He is the warning sign of why not to go to the next nice man when you leave DV.[/quote]

No. He only put in "strings", in this case better known as BOUNDARIES when Alex left maddy with him, without telling him she would be gone all night, to go f#ck Sean. Yes Alex was messed up in trauma if her mom and not thinking clearly. And Nate STILL told her to keep the car. But she needed to leave so long as she was going to be involved like this with Sean. And that is normal and HEALTHY. Sh!tty but healthy. Just like they also have to leave the DV shelter if they are getting with the abusers. Like alcoholics who drink. Trauma can be almost like an addiction, a toxic chemical soup. Alex could never have dated Nate (at least at the time) because he was nice. This went against her internal belief system about who she is and what is her role in life.[/quote]

It's certainly a fair point.  Nate did put boundaries for himself.  That said, I think they blindsided Alex.  I think she was justified in thinking things would never be equal if they dated--which is very healthy. Many women in her position would have jumped into his arms for what he was offering. I don't think it's because it goes against her belief system that she can't be with a nice man.  She went back to Sean because Sean was familiar and claimed to understand her in ways "no one else ever could"--which is very much an abuser trait. And of course Sean was the one to be there to uncover the Basil/home theft thing and to run to save her out of the arms of Nate.  Again, abusers want to feel needed.  This made Sean feel needed.  It made him the "we" he claimed to be when Alex justly corrected him there was no "we" and he went on to correct her that Paula was his daughters grandma and therefore there was a "we".   All very minor details but very much part of the traits of someone who desperately wants Alex back.  And as the lady at the shelter says, most people go back.  Abuse isn't black or white.  I, as a viewer, remained conflicted about Sean until the end and almost let out an "awee" when he called her "Alaska" at the very end.  [/quote]

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