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[quote=Anonymous]OP if you don’t want to know what people on DCUM think, why did you post?
I can’t say from what you posted if you are a cold mother. I could never let my baby cry unattended and I do think it’s cruel… but this is me… not you… if you felt fine letting him cry for a bit and as a result he/you are sleeping better, great! I could never do it.

That’s the thing about raising our kids, it matters to all of us (maybe most of us) so much that we feel very strongly about our choices (and their consequences).
Do I wish my kids slept through the night at 8 weeks? OF COURSE! Am I jealous yours does? OF COURSE! Would I let them cry so that I could have a better life? NO, NEVER. 
It was hard waking up with my (3) kids all the time for months (and in one case years). I don’t think it affected my life or marriage much, but those nights were long. My kids thrived and my marriage is doing great so I am happy with my choices most of the time, but (like you) I am sensitive to criticism… our choices are sometimes what makes us most vulnerable and you SIL must have struck a nerve with you.
I am sure you do feel perhaps a bit guilty (or unsure) about some of your decisions and you will feel the same about many more you will make in the future…

Finally, DCUM is full of spiteful people who are frustrated and take their anger out in this online forum. I have been called worse than you out here more than once. Don’t post about yourself if you know the criticisms might hurt (as this time clearly did).
Relax, no parent is perfect and no one way works for every family.
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