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DP but the twins are in different classrooms. Does the host even know the other twin? Why would the host child be expected to play with another kid at their house who they probably don't know well? From that perspective it is like any other sibling. If the kids were all in the same class maybe it would be different. And the b/g thing would give me pause. At that age my kids really only wanted to play with same sex friends, as did almost all of their friends.[/quote]

Yes, the other mom knows the twin. The OP said that the three kids have had playdates together. Both her kids see the other girl as a friend.

It could be that the other girl is not interested in playing with the boy twin but has been nice and done fine with both kids in the past. The twins read it as the girl is both of their friends and the other girl wants to be friends with just the girl twin.

OP is trying to navigate a difficult path because the twins see this child as a mutual friend and the boy is going to feel hurt. [/quote]

For one of my kids, I limit playdates to only one friend. In groups of 3 it's happened too many times that he felt left out, in his own house, if the two played too much with each other, ignoring him. I'm looking out for mine as much as twin parents look out for theirs. Parents with multiple kids deal with hurt feelings all the time, while maybe different than twin issues, my other kids often want to join in on a play date, or feel left out if they aren't invited to a party another kid is, there's plenty of disappointment all the time that we have to manage, it's just part of life.[/quote]

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