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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]While some of the traditions are a bit outdated (such as dresses only for girls - I don't see why nice pants wont do), like with most things in life, we take in the lessons that work for us but not all. We are not mindless robots after all.

No. Things that are sexist are inappropriate, and should not be supported with your $. Would you feel the same way if the rule was that kids should only ask kids of their own race to dance? If not, what do you see as the difference?

To me the dressy clothes are the uniform for the activity. Would my son prefer to show up in athletic gear 100%, but he wears what is required and if he refused we would not go.
I imagine for a variety of reasons cotillion is not for everyone and that is OK. There are lots of activities that are not for my family. The stories I have heard about travel soccer frustrate me and sometimes even make me angry, so my family does not support it. But I don't ask other families to justify to me why they do.

That said, in terms of OPs asked I wanted to share our experience. Many people seem to be ruling it out without knowing much about it. Therefore, I thought the perspective of a family who participated would be helpful to OP.[/quote]

Got it. You are ruling out travel soccer (which both my girls play) based on "stories you have heard" about it, but you are totally fine with an organization that forces girls to wear gender stereotyped clothing (which is completely different than comfortable athletic clothing that your son might prefer).[/quote]

I've never understood this.  If my DD likes dresses and enjoys wearing them, then why should she be looked down upon for that?  It's equally OK to embrace your gender as it is to reject it.  Anything else feels a lot like misogyny.
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Lots of girls including mine like dresses, and its great for them to embrace their sense of style. That's not the issue.  Its an issue when an organization requires a certain "uniform" like dresses for a girls. Some, even CIS kids, may not be comfortable in a dress. Even our school's chorus offers a dress AND several pants styles for females.[/quote]

How can I explain this to you gently. Part of what it means to mature, to grow into oneself and to become a functioning, non-self absorbed adult, is realizing that not every occasion is an appropriate one to express one's "sense of style." Dressy, formal attire for girls and women means dresses. That is not likely to change anytime soon, simply because a group of rowdy moms on DCUM decide that it deprives their little darlings of a chance to express themselves at any time and place that they so desire.[/quote]

So, my daughter will not be a non-self absorbed functioning adult because she won't wear dresses?  She isn't expressing her sense of style (she wears dressy pants and shirts) but she does not feel comfortable in dresses (or showing her legs).

Please go back to Mississippi or wherever you come from.  [/quote]

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