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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are 9, 7 twins, and 5.

Just to be clear- the family had a football watching party in which other guests (not just family members) were invited. Guests with kids. We were not.

Thank you to those who are choosing kindness and not to attack us. To the people who are saying it was rude of me to ask my best friend what was up, you must not have any real friends you are open and honest with. If I had any of my typical gatherings/events and didn’t invite my two best friends but yet posted about them on social media, of course those women would be contacting me immediately about it. They would be shocked and it would be a bit change from our literal
decades of friendship. [/quote]

NP here - it's almost certainly one of two things.  1) The hosts didn't feel up to adding such a large number of people (especially 4 kids) to their guest list or 2) their kids need a break from your kids.  It happens.

A true friend - one who is like your family - won't be so sensitive that she considers the entire friendship irrevocably changed because of one football game.  They assume the best and move on.  Their relationship is stronger than perceived slights.[/quote]

This.

Agree OP that this situation sucks for you. If you have a really open relationship with your friends, can you ask them why your kids are too much?

We have family friends who don't watch their kids when they come over; they are nice people, but allow their 3 kids to run wild, because they need a break from them. They would hang out in bedrooms going through drawers, not follow directions from other adults, etc... while their parents drank or smoked outside. Finally all doors but the main living area had to be locked, a conversation was had with their parents about drinking and not watching their kids, and all pets in the household had to be crated before this family could come over. It is a lot of work for whoever is hosting. This is in another state, so not you OP.

I would assume that something has occurred: that the kids have broken something, gone where they shouldn't have in someone's house, roughhoused with the other kids too much, or there has been a falling out among the kids. Tell your friends you missed seeing them, and ask if there is something that has occurred with your kids or lack supervision that has made them "too much" for this person's house. [/quote]

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