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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question: what do you do with the six+ Hours when your kids are out of the house?  I can’t imagine having that much time for myself every day. I mean, any logistics/chores could all be done within three hours. And with no boss breathing down your neck.  I can see how your husband could be resentful. [/quote]

Not OP but it isn’t that much time.  Not OP, but I workout at a gym daily and between going there, taking a shower, running some errands, cleaning up areas of the house (I do a daily pick up plus deep clean parts on a weekly schedule), yard work, I bake our bread daily and cook meals from scratch and that is very time consuming too.  Six hours flies by.  [/quote]

Oh, barf. Working moms do all of this with a job (except “bake bread” — WTF — but if they really wanted to do that, they’d do it on the weekend).

You take a shower, work out and run some errands? Wow! Color us all impressed.  :roll: [/quote]

Yeah- instead you should push around some papers in an office, zone out through some boring non-productive meetings, pretend to look busy, and scroll DCUM on your phone.  That is way more important that taking care of yourself and your home.

Seriously PP, why do you care what someone does with their time and what gives you any authority to decide it is important or not? [/quote]

I am a working mom w/9mo and 3yo and I never understand all these "what do you do with your time? working moms do it all plus work!" comments.  I would have NO PROBLEM filling 6 hrs a day.  As-is, I don't work out, I barely do my makeup/hair, I cook only easy things that can be thrown together in under 30 min, I have a million organizational tasks/projects that I never get to, and I rarely get to bed before 11pm bc after my kids are in bed I need to pick up toys, do dishes/laundry, wash pump parts, and get bottles and lunches ready for the next day.

I'm not complaining (and yes, my DH is an equal partner and handles many tasks, and we make it work) but the idea that you can't fill 6hrs/day with household and kid-related tasks, or that working moms easily accomplish everything SAHMs in their non-working hours, is ridiculous.[/quote]

This!!! I work part-time and only have one kid (granted, a 4 yr old with special needs so not a picnic, but not severely impaired either so not that out of the ordinary either) and I am barely scraping by. If I didn't work at all, I'd still have jam packed days. It might mean I actually eat a little better and get some amount of personal downtime, which is something every human deserves!

All of these "SAHMs are lazy" comments really show how toxic our culture is around work. No one should have to prove to anyone else they are being 100% productive every single day. We don't demand this of people with paid jobs because we assume that if they are being paid, they are "earning" it. But anyone with a job knows this isn't really true. Some people really earn their pay checks and some don't work as hard and some people slack off hard. I'm sure SAHMs are the same, tbh, though in my experience it's harder to slack off on mom-related duties because kids are much more aggressive about making sure they get what they need than any boss I've ever had.[/quote]

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