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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's confusing me is that you've described your sister's jealousy but said very little about how that translates to her mistreating you. Just being jealous shouldn't be much skin off your nose. [/quote]

OP here. Here's how my sister's jealousy has manifested itself into real mistreatment (and not just passive jealousy):
- She constantly compares her son to my son and fosters competitiveness between them. 
- She accused me of marrying DH for his money after she found out  he paid off my school loan. 
- She has always liked to mock me because I was always into clothing and hair in my younger days whereas she was the brainy one. Then when we both got the same SAT score even after she studied twenty hours a week and I studied for only four hours, the claws really came out big time. She then began to mock me in public at dinner parties, family get togethers, etc..and it continued until the day I stopped speaking to her.
- She reminds me that I'm at greater risk for breast cancer simply because I have large breasts. Who asked her about my risk of break cancer? 
- She scared the life out of DH and I when she insisted DC has autism. She insisted on an evaluation. We got several and all said he was not on the autism spectrum at all. When asked why she put us through so much hell, she would say she did it because she was deeply concerned for her nephew. When her own had more glaring autistic like symptoms (hand flapping, meltdowns, and speaking only single words at age 2.5, she never got a formal evaluation. 
- She is my only sister, yet refused to help me on my wedding day to get ready and, in fact, told me she thought my wedding dress was "ugly."

The list goes on and on...

The problem is what to do. I recognize a sickness in her but it is hard to receive sympathy or advice from those who can relate to her inadequacies and bitterness and jealousies or those who simply will automatically resent the benefits or privileges I received in life. There's another post in the Expectant Moms forum about a 9 mos pregnant woman riding the metro who was appalled that nobody got up to offer their seat to her. She asked if this is typical of DC. There is cynicism, rudeness, bitterness here among DC area folk that is very apparent to people who lived in other regions before. I think its why DCUM suffers sometimes and why I've been tormented in this thread.

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