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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both my DH and I came from families of 6 so we wanted 4 kids. I think some people really don’t “get” wanting to have 4 but I see this as similar to people who don’t “get” having kids at all. We love it but I know it would be a difficult family size for some people to handle. [/quote]

It's not really about getting it or not being able to handle it. It's that it's completely irresponsible to have that many kids that intentionally.

And the parents with 4+ kids are never handling it as well as they think they are.[/quote]

What do you think it is that makes you so critical and sensitive towards the idea of larger families? I see these types of responses and they often come off as needlessly defensive and self conscious.

I have 2 and am done but there are obviously both good and bad parents of one child and of four. Are people who make snide remarks just jealous? If they truly don’t want more, why?[/quote]

Jealous? Hell no! [b] I grew up as one of 4 and surrounded by families of 4+. Every single parent claimed they just wanted a lot of kids, and they loved nig families, and the kids just get along and it's so great they have built-in friends. and went on and on about how ell they were handling it, and they really thought they were. They weren't handed handling it, and it's no surprise that out of the 20 + kids I knew only one of us has gone on to have more than 2 kids. We know the damage it causes and that it's not healthy or truly possible to raise 4 + kids. People do it because they lack self-awareness , self-control and likely have an undiagnosed mental illness[/b].[/quote]

Wow. You probably shouldn’t have ANY kids until work on those childhood issues! [/quote]

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