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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I saw you doing this I would assume you had extremely limited parenting skills. [/quote]

really? because I think the prototypical “gentle parenting” approach I see out in public seems more like limited skills. “[b]Now Larlo, we don’t hit! Larlo mommy is really feeling upset! Larlo take a deep breath … Larlo no that is not nice!! LARLO BE KIND!!”
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If I saw a dad give a swift, authoritative time out in response to hitting - I would think that was good parenting.

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I didn't say good or bad. I said "limited". [/quote]

That isnt gentle parenting. Thats permissive. Kind IS not a word kids/toddlers can understand because they have no sense of anyone elses desires/needs/thoughts. Also Larlo isnt responsible for how mommy feels- but thats a whole other issue.

This is the elementary age thread so I would assume we are talking about 5/6 and up. No one speaks like the bolded to a 5 year old unless they have no idea what they are doing but that doesnt mean gentle parenting is the issue it means the parent is the issue.
 By that point the boundary of hitting should have already been accomplished. No hitting. I see that you are angry or frustrated. You can stomp when you are angry/frustrated- thats 2-4 year olds. then you move onto STAR/calming practices because youve already worked with them on identifying the emotion and what they can do. Then you scaffold.

I practice gentle parenting and if my 6 year old was hitting at the park we would leave. It is unacceptable behavior at that age. They are obviously dealing with something else to regress back to use hitting as a way to communicate.

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