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[quote=Anonymous]If you want to keep inviting her, then you need to first tell her that, especially now that you all have kids, everyone needs to pitch in and do their share to make the vacation work.  Don't wait for her to help -- specifically ask her to do X or Y.  If she doesn't, then:

(1) Stop doing any of her chores.  If she puts her laundry in with the kids', take it out and leave it in the hamper.  Don't take care of her baby.  Don't pack snacks for her.  Don't pack a chair or a towel for her.  When she notices, just say, "Barb, we talked about everyone needing to pitch in.  Everyone else helped pack up for the beach.  We asked you to put the chairs in the trunk and set out the snacks and drinks you wanted in the cooler.  You didn't."

(2) If it's her night to make dinner and she doesn't, you and your friend go out to dinner.  Without her.  If she says anything, you say, "Barb, we all signed up to make dinner on a rotating basis.  Tonight was your night.  We reminded you this morning and this afternoon, and you didn't even bother to order pizza."

(3) Stop accommodating her husband.  Don't shush the kids because he's on a work call -- he can go to another room to take the call.

(4) Expect that she's going to eat some of your food and drinks.  Account for that, and if she does, feel free to do the same for anything she brings.  [/quote]

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