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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know what advice to give, op. All I can say it to be gracious and polite and understanding. That might go a long way to create goodwill on the step FIL's bio kids.
I am not saying give them the money, but[b] ask yourself how would you feel in their shoes[/b]. Their side of the story is likely very, very different from the version you got.
In any situation, I find that starting from a point of view that is generous, accepting and gracious, is the best course of action. That doesn't mean that they will act the same, but at the end of the day when you go to bed, what will make you sleep without any regrets?[/quote]

Yes, but that only gets you so far given that we already know how [b]they[/b] chose to act. If I were completely blindsided by being disinherited, I would be hurt, and angry at the person who disinherited me. (That's a big if, here, because at least on OP's understanding these kids knew they weren't close to the father -- they didn't send flowers or show up at his funeral!) So how would I respond in that situation? I might meditate, complain to my spouse, complain to my therapist, punch a pillow. What I would [b]not[/b] do is harass the mother of the step-siblings who got a windfall. But that's what these crazies are doing to the poor OP.

I mean, seriously, if they showed up and physically assaulted OP, would we be saying, "put yourself in their shoes"?[/quote]

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