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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is an attention seeking person and quite a difficult personality. [/quote]

OP here. Attention seeking? That's debatable. It's what you're making it mean.
Difficult personality? Perhaps, under stressful circumstances. I was merely reaching out for help at the time.

My relatives are not 100% perfect either. My Mom's only sister didn't even visit Mom in hospital, at home or at the hospice when she knew she was dying. Do you think this is normal? I certainly don't. 
Dad and I were at my Mom's bedside. Mom's siblings weren't.[/quote]

I think some families do as you expected and some families do as you experienced.  It is just the nature of families.

You are mourning your family’s current loss and mourning the fact that you do not have an extended family (that acts in the way you expected).

You may benefit from a few sessions with a grief counselor to help you reframe your experience and allow you to move on.  It is okay to feel sad that things are the way they are and not the way you want them to be.  Your parent’s families will not change and you cannot control that.  You can only control how you react.

FWIW, I had a similar need to reframe my outlook with my family relationship when I was raising my children who have ASD and LDs.  They were never on the same page as us.  I learned to accept the relationship they were willing to give.  I mourned the relationship I thought we had,but in time it hurt less.

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Thanks for your input. I may try a grief counselor. My DH had already said that I am 'angry with the world' as he calls it. Perhaps that is it. 
I've never had therapy or counselling in my life. Not sure what to expect, but I may give it a try.[/quote]

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