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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]https://www.11alive.com/article/news/local/single-mother-wants-charge-dropped-after-toddler-wanders-into-neighbors-house/85-fbbd3259-d39c-4886-8ddf-c391d3670bd5
 
This is almost unbelievable. What a crappy neighbor! There have been threads where  people ask what age it is okay to have a sibling watch younger siblings. Most everyone would agree that it would be fine to have a 14 almost 15 year old watch their younger siblings.
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Unless paid regular sitter rates, older children should never be asked to watch younger sibling. [/quote]

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What? No way.   Older kids have taken care of younger kids since families began.   Particularly if mom is a single mom trying to make a living.  [/quote]

+1000 it literally grieves me to think this is the mentality of people today. It is GOOD for older siblings to be part of the family, learn responsibility! Kids aren’t royalty; they are people who have to learn to be self-sacrificial adults.[/quote]

What about your last born? How is s/he learning to be “self-sacrificial”?[/quote]

I'm not the pp you quoted, but in my family the youngest would take care of younger cousins or nieces and nephews.[/quote]

My family has an extra large age range. 20 years between oldest and youngest kids in my generation. The oldest kids looked after younger, and we looked after their kids when they started having them. I would have been horrified if my older sister wanted to pay me as a HSer to watch my niece so she could work.   Then when my oldest niece was a young teen, I had my first. So she and her brother would watch my kids when I needed it occasionally. It has worked this way for our entire extended family. I live further than many siblings, but two of my sisters never paid a babysitter ever. And I firmly expect that if/when the older cousins have kids my kids will be thrilled to babysit if they can. 
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+1. Some people have a very narrow definition of family or do not have close extended families.  But if you do have good relationships with a large extended family, the above is exactly what happens and I think it’s good for kids to develop empathy when they help those who are older or younger than them.[/quote]

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