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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be easy enough to publicly out two of the cheaters I know.  One is a prominent person whose family is secondary to their professional career and success, and the other just the opposite, a more ordinary person whose own career did not fully develop and whose family obligations are primary.  Both very hurtful in their own ways, but the first more devastatingly so to their family.  The second somewhat compensates for their cheating behavior by tending to their family.[/quote]

So a SAHM and a dude that is rich?  You sound very much like you are giving her a pass and holding him more responsible.  I guess her husband that has been financially supporting her his entire life might feel differently.[/quote]

Actually, both serial cheaters are of the same sex in the examples I am referring to.  Neither one gets a pass in my book,[b] but one caused less damage to their family by remaining in their longterm marriage [/b]and assuming equal if not primary responsibility for the children and the home, so that the latter appears to all eyes to have a happy, intact, loving, enviable and well-adjusted family life, whereas the former does not.[/quote]

But just exposes the spouse to disease/non-monogamy and gaslights/lies to live the secret life. Yeah, admirable.   :roll:

Wouldn't the one that didn't divorce but was still lying and having sex behind their back....the SAHM/W be a worse person?  Just sayin'

You sound very strange doing this mental gymnastics with sliding scale of integrity/morals.[/quote]

Yeah "the latter' is living a phony life and deceiving the very person that puts a roof over their head and funds their lifestyle.  Think about what that will do when the gig is up and the children and spouse find out about this long term deception.  The longer the betrayal goes on the more devastating and traumatic. "Your friend" is not a good or admirable person.[/quote]

The children are all nearly grown and out of the house so the one serial cheater's double life (with/out the tacit acceptance of the spouse) appears to have held up well only in terms of maintaining stability throughout the kids' childhood.  In the case of the other serial cheater the wheels of the cart came badly off during the children's years at home.[/quote]

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