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[quote=Anonymous]This thread really feels like my past self reaching through time to talk to my present self. I used to have SO many of the views in this thread, like that certain tasks absolutely must be completed by me or DH or otherwise the results would be unacceptable; that if he didn't want to do half of those tasks, it was because he didn't respect me; that he was selfish and lazy if he tried to weasel out of them. Really and truly, none of that is true. Him not agreeing (expressed or unexpressed) that you need to cook nightly, do your own laundry vs a pickup/dropoff service, make beds, vacuum multiple times a week, etc etc... These are not signs that he is a bad husband, or that he doesn't respect you/your time, or that he has some deep character flaw. You can choose to make it mean that, but it does not inherently mean any of that. [/quote]
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